Making a List of What’s Going Right

I started my gratitude practice as my mother was wading into dementia, as a way to stay connected, compassionate, and sane. The more I notice the good things, the happier I seem to be. I really resonated with this blog from my friend Karen Rowinsky and I wanted to share it with you.

 Making a List of What’s Going Right

From Guest Blogger Karen Rowinsky

Feeling overwhelmed?

Can’t catch a break?

Nothing seems to be going your way?

If you are having one of those days, weeks, or months, this tip is for you.

Instead of reciting to yourself, or others, the list of events that are stressing you out, try documenting the things that are going right.

Start with real things that are going right like:

  • Even though my head hurts, my feet don’t.
  • I don’t know where the mortgage payment will come from but at least no one in the family is sick.
  • My spouse is really getting on my nerves but at least I know he or she will be there in a pinch.
  • Stress at work is getting me down but it’s not raining and I can get outside for a breather.

Once you have gotten some “at leasts…..” on your list, then begin adding things that are positive or funny:

  • I have good friends.
  • My dog loves me.
  • I have food to eat today.
  • I’m having a good hair day.
  • No one has “unfriended” me on Facebook lately.

I’m not making light of your troubles. I am suggesting a way that you can get some relief during a time that is challenging. Self care even for a few minutes is better than none.    #

Karen Rowinsky, LSCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker.

 Deborah Shouse is the author of Love in the Land of Dementia: Finding Hope in the Caregiver’s Journey.


  1. candy on May 26, 2015 at 9:10 am

    A message all of us can use–caregiver or not.

    • deborahshousewrites on May 26, 2015 at 4:58 pm

      Thanks, Candy, and I agree! It’s hard to stay positive but I’m happier when I do.

  2. boomer98053 on May 26, 2015 at 4:26 pm

    Reblogged this on Baby Boomers and More and commented:
    Great, gentle advice on how to redirect ones focus when it’s stuck in Negativity-ville.

    • deborahshousewrites on May 26, 2015 at 4:57 pm

      Thanks for reblogging! I love having a variety of ways to boost myself out of depressive energy. Any tips you want to share?

      • boomer98053 on May 26, 2015 at 6:31 pm

        If I approach a speed bump in any particular day that initially seems insurmountable, I remind myself, “It’s just one day. I can get through this day. Tomorrow will be different.”

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